The Japanese say: "Don't teach fate bad things."

Don't Expect Trouble The Japanese say, "Don't teach fate bad things." It's natural for an ordinary person to be afraid. But when you expect trouble, the worst-case scenario "spins" in your brain, making you act as if it's already a fact. Expecting failure, fearing it, can become the biggest obstacles to Success. Let's first look at our fears from the point of view of the nature of the Universe. Remember: everything in this world is energy with a certain vibration frequency. For example, our eyes perceive light - electromagnetic oscillations of a certain spectrum. Having analyzed the information that our visual organs perceive before it gets to our brain, we can see that these vibrations do not carry any evil or hostility, they are just vibrations. But when we perceive them in our brain, we say, "I see a problem." In other words, we perceive high-frequency energies, which do not carry any problems in themselves, in such a way that they turn into a problem for us. Only by labeling yourself and others do you create favorable conditions for the emergence of problems and fears. And then "the mind experiences, but the brain remembers," as Wilder Penfield writes in his book "The Riddle of the Mind." And one more thing. It is important to understand that there is neither stress nor happiness in everything that happens. A person himself, by his own choice, endows events, situations or objects with their content. "There are no facts, there are only interpretations of facts," Nietzsche once said. In philosophical terms, a person is a subject that makes interpretations, and these interpretations will always be associated with his inner world. Very often we experience disappointment about what later turned out to be in our favor. Know that there is always a benefit, even in failures. Paradoxically, there is also a prize hidden in your failures - an opportunity to gain experience, become smarter and become an expert in your life. "Nothing real can be threatening, nothing unreal exists. This is the peace of God," says the book "A Course in Miracles." Stephen Pavlina writes: “When you hear someone tell you that success is easy, run as far as you can because they are trying to sell you another get-rich-quick scheme. The honest truth is that it is very difficult – almost impossible – to succeed at something you have not done before. But that is fine. Realize that failure and success are not opposites. Failure is an inevitable part of success. When you fail, it means you are taking action, so you make mistakes and learn. Success comes naturally once you finally learn how to take the right action.” “It is not events that disturb a man, but his view of events,” the Stoic philosopher Epictetus said 2,000 years ago. Sometimes even an accident can serve as an awakening to a new life, and months spent in the hospital can be a priceless gift of finding “real life”, because “difficulty creates opportunity”. Your philosophy should be that “everything that happens in my life is the best thing that could have happened.” If you believe that everything that happens is ultimately for your benefit, then there will be no room for stress in your life. If you are confident from the start that everything will end well for you, you will no longer feel like a fragile boat in a vast ocean. Here is an important principle for your personal philosophy: my current situation is exactly what I need at this moment for my personal growth and development. In other words, every aspect of your life today is as it should be. Every difficulty you face contains favorable opportunities that you can turn to your advantage. Consider this: people only complain about things they themselves can change. After all, no one thinks of complaining about the law of gravity, even if it causes us to end up on slippery asphalt. It’s a paradox, but we complain not to those who can change anything: to our wife about our boss, and to our friends about our wife. Ask yourself: “Why and why do I always give my precious energy to everything I don’t need?” Your mind runs through up to 60,000 thoughts every day. Analyze how many of them are devoted to things you don’t need? To get rid of these kinds of thoughts, ask yourself: “What do I need?” and redesign them into an intention to solve the problem and thereby remove it from your consciousness. When we begin to “reconstruct” our own lives, it’s like remodeling an apartment. There’s chaos all around, you have to make decisions, deal with people… When the air is full of dust, everything is in shambles, it’s hard to maintain a clear vision of the future and the ultimate goal. It’s no wonder that in these conditions you may feel anxious and ask yourself: “Am I on the right track? Have I gone astray? Was it worth starting all this? But chaos in nature indicates growth, the beginning of a process, dynamics and changes. Physicists know that a system that has gone through chaos reaches a new level of development. Winemakers will tell you how they get the most exquisite wine. To do this, growing grapes are subjected to “stress”, intentionally moistening the soil only at the limit of the vine’s survival. Having gone through this test, the grapes produce the best drink. Millions of years ago, fear signaled to a person that he had left his comfort zone, leading to a state of readiness to “run-fight-freeze”. Today, fear signals that you should be careful. You need to recognize and accept your fear, and free yourself from it, ask yourself, what image of the future scares you? Then replace this image with its positive opposite. After all, you created the fear yourself, imagining a certain negative result in the future. All the great teachers and sages said that you should never worry, strain your strength, wasting it on fighting. The point is not to slow down your life, you just need to calm down. When faced with a difficult choice, when faced with the need to make important decisions, ask yourself: “How does this decision make me feel? How right does it seem to me? What does my intuition tell me?” Losers are afraid of failure, that’s why they are losers. The paradox is that the most successful people are those who fail the most, because they act the most! Thomas Watson Sr., the founder of IBM, once told a journalist: “If you want to get ahead quickly, you must fail twice as often. Success lies on the other side.” Successful people always have a positive attitude to problems; they have a type of thinking called “solution orientation.” They think about solutions most of the time. Losers, on the other hand, think about problems and difficulties all the time. Solution-oriented, successful people are constantly looking for a way out of a crisis, a way to overcome or bypass an obstacle on the way. Problem-oriented people constantly talk about difficulties, who or what is causing them, how unhappy they are and how hard their life is. In contrast, solution-oriented individuals ask the question: “What can be done?” and begin to remove the obstacle. Human development is very simple in essence and goes through three stages: – lived experience, – learning a lesson from the experience, – developing thanks to this lesson. As soon as we comprehend these lessons, stop blaming others and take full responsibility for our lives, our attitude towards ourselves changes, we begin to vibrate in the surrounding world differently and attract different states into our lives. Failure should be viewed as an experience, learn a lesson from it, become wiser, adjust the course and move on. View failures as a result that can be improved, as the embryo of something better. After all, you can make lemonade from the sourest lemon! One of the rules of Success is: it does not matter where you came from, it only matters where you are going. There is a concept in physics known as the Heisenberg Uncertainty Principle. In simple terms, it states that when you look at something from a different angle, it begins to change, as if adjusting to the observer. In other words, when you observe something, you necessarily change it (and by the way, this is the reason for what we call the "evil eye"), i.e. even just observing this world, we change it, and change in it occurs only when the observer changes, and not the observed. What is true for subatomic particles is true in our lives. When you learn to look at things from a different angle, they begin to change. Look at an event that seems unfortunate from a different point of view, and you will definitely see its positive aspects. Michael Jordan threw the most baskets, but he also has the first place in misses. Disney went bankrupt 7 times, but won an Oscar 32 times. Napoleon Hill, whose books made thousands of people millionaires, was broke most of his life. Remember that a true expert is a person who has failed enough to succeed. Treat past failures with gratitude! Throw your fear into the trash when making a decision, do not ask it for advice. Its job is to keep you in the "comfort zone". Make it a rule: "Do first what you fear most!" If fear looms ahead, come closer to it, examine it carefully, pat it on the head, thank it, and it will disappear. Stop worrying with or without reason. Remember: "Worry is praying for what you do not want." Worry is a negative form of goal setting. The book of Job says: "For the fear that I feared has come upon me; and what I feared has come upon me." Do not be afraid to make mistakes for the sake of your future. “In prayer, ask not for a light burden, but for strong shoulders” (Saint Augustine).